EDUCATIONAL CHALLENGES
THE ART OF LIVING IN THE WORLD

Ewa Danuta Bialek

STRENGTHENING OF BONDS

From a child’s wisdom

Advice from little Eve for the adult one

INSTYTUT PSYCHOSYNTEZY

Copyright by: Ewa Danuta Białek

Translation: Klaudia Skutela

Color computer graphics on the cover: Ewa Przybylska

First Published in Polish, 2002

ISBN for Polish Edition 83-911206

ISBN 978-83-63428-12-9

Warsaw, 2012

Publisher: INSTITUTE OF PSYCHOSYNTHESIS

Centre of Human Balanced Development

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Konwersja:

1st Advice

Eve is squatting with her hands near her face.

I ask: Why are you sad? 

She answers: The marbles are pulled down. 

Q.: How can marbles be pulled down? 

A.: See, they are lying on the floor. 

Q.: What do you want to do with them? 

A.: Repaint them. 

Q.: What for? 

A.: To see them in a different way. 

Q.: Why do you want to see them differently? 

A.: To see differently what I see. 

Q.: What is the link between the two: pulling down and repainting? 

A.: When I change my position (way of thinking), I will see the marbles in order.

2nd Advice

Eve is sitting on a threshold with her hair disheveled. One cannot see her face. It is obvious that she is trying to see something on the floor. It’s almost dark inside. She’s worried.

I ask her: What are you looking for? 

She answers: I can’t see it. 

Q.: What do you want to see? 

A.: When I open my eyes, I do see. When I close them, I see nothing. When I open them a little, I see a little. When I place my eyes nearer, I see little. When I keep a distance, I see more but more shallowly.

However, I want to ask her a specific question today which has bothered me for quite a long time so I ask at once.

Q.: What do you think, what can be done to make oneself feel better? 

A.: Change the feeling. 

Q.: How? 

A.: Just like with those eyes. Change the feeling by changing the way of looking. It is adjustable. Put the bad feeling further away and pull the good one closer. And keep the good one all the time. It is so easy. 

Q.: How do you apply it to change the mood? 

A.: Just like other kids: I jump over. 

Q.: ??????? ( I do not understand her answer) 

A.: Just like when you play hopscotch. You jump from one square to another. The faster the better – then you win. 

Q.: So what should I do with the mood? 

A.: Jump over as quickly as possible. Just like in hopscotch. If you feel pain, jump over it immediately.

3rd Advice

Eve is 6 years old.

I ask: Why are you standing back to front? 

She answers: Just because I like it that way. 

Q.: Why are you so stubborn? 

A.: Out of need. 

Q.: What is your need? 

A.: To see what is at the back. 

Q.: Why? 

A.: I want to see the invisible. 

Q.: Do you think it is better that way? What for? 

A.: I don’t see anything from the back. 

Q.: But what will it give you? 

A.: I want to see it all around. See the whole.

My question of the day: How can I achieve what I need? 

She answer: Notice the invisible and start doing it. 

??? I do not understand what links these two. 

A.: The answer comes from the invisible. 

??? 

A.: You should decipher the invisible. 

Q.: How can one get what one really needs? 

A.: One has to use one’s imagination to see the invisible, creates an image and starts having it all in every detail. (The image starts to create reality)